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Living with a roommate can be an excellent
experience in learning more about yourself and about how to communicate
and relate effectively to others. Knowing how to assert yourself
and how to empathize with others are valuable skills in all relationships
- family, social, school, and work.
Whether you were friends before or just
met for the first time when you became roommates, living together
successfully calls for sincere efforts toward compromise and cooperation.
Don't expect that your roommate will be your best friend - it's
nice when it happens, but it's not the norm.
Developing a positive relationship is
a process; it does not happen overnight and takes effort.
To help your roommate relationships work
long term, try to understand the struggles your roommate may be
experiencing. Your roommate's perspective may be very different
from your own. Respect one another.
You will find, as the year progresses,
that your values and those of your roommate will be challenged or
change. This can be one of the most difficult parts of a roommate
relationship. When the going gets rough, you and your roommate are
not alone. Ask your resident assistant/community assistant or your
residence hall coordinator to help you arrive at solutions.
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